Are We Selfish? | The Rev. Robert A. Jacobs, Deacon

09.17.21 | Celebration, Community, International, Pulpit Posts

When one has a selfish heart, one will do whatever they need to do to get what their heart wants. 

When we are ruled by selfishness, our minds will allow us to justify anything and everything so long as we get what we want, so long as those selfish desires are fulfilled. 

When one allows a selfish heart to control their life, one of the things that will happen is, we will tend to drift from God. If we are not careful, we could drift so far away that we could cause ourselves to experience serious trouble. 

When our hearts are focused on our selfish desires, it will put a wall between ourselves and God, because deep down, we are embarrassed by our selfishness. Jesus tells us this is not the way to gain glory. 

When we are focused on our selfish desires, we build walls. Then when you feel a wall going up, maybe there is some selfishness happening in your life that needs to be removed. 

Jesus explains it to the disciples and later will show them by washing their feet, it is counter-intuitive to what people would think. 

He spoke on this subject often because he knew selfish ambition was a problem for people. 

The world tells you it is all about you, make yourself happy, pave your own way, but Jesus says the way to glory is through service and serving. 

Selfishness is not pleasing to God. When our hearts are governed by selfishness, we will overlook God. What is important to Him is His passion becomes our passion. 

What is important to us when we are driven by selfishness is what we want, when we want it and how we want it. Jesus tells us we are to welcome those who we do not see as significant and when we do, we are embracing Him. 

When we are selfish, our world is turned upside down. We value things and use people. We gravitate toward people who will help us to get what we want, and we will ignore people who do not help us to fulfill our desires. 

One of the things that is of utmost importance to God is how we see and treat others. When we focus on self, we forget that God has called us to love others. 

Usually, one’s heart does not drift away in one day. It is a process that takes time. We have to be cognizant of the fact that our heart can drift and take steps to make sure we stay anchored to Jesus. 

We need to look inside ourselves constantly that life is not just about us and what we want, but make sure our life is about what God wants. 


Rev. Robert Jacobs

Rev. Robert Jacobs


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